My Mom Life: Farrah D’Ambro
Up at 7am to make lunch for Isabella and Bryan (my husband). Make everyone breakfast. Get Isabella ready and out the door by 8:30am for school. 9am is usually when I start cleaning from the morning chaos (dishes, counters, pj’s that were left on the floor :/ ) I get Giselle settled playing and finish up any other household chores. Laundry, sweep, etc.. Depending on the day I may have to run out to do some errands. I have to be at the school at 2:45 to pick up Isabella. Snacks for both kids and then I get Isabella started on her homework. After homework I clean up AGAIN from my messy kids and then start dinner. After dinner is yet another round of cleaning and then showers for the kids, picking out the next days clothes. The kids play for a while and then get ready for bed. Giselle is usually in bed by 7:30pm and Isabella around 9:00pm. Then it is FINALLY mommy time…which is when I get to have a glass of wine and watch my favorite tv shows or read.
What do you find tricky about your current set-up/schedule? What would you change if you could?
The hardest part about my schedule is trying to find balance in my life. I spend my every waking moment making sure everyone else’s needs are met and rarely make sure that my own are! If I could change things, I would find a program for my 2 ½ year old a few times a week so I had a little time away for myself.
What do you like best about your current set-up/schedule?
I love being home and available for my girls. I love being the one who teaches them! I like that I am always around to take care of them.
Honestly…I have very little time for myself. I have a nine year old daughter and a 2 ½ year old daughter who gave up naps about 4-5 months ago. I usually only have a few hours in the evening after both girls are in bed to myself. I cherish every.single.second of it!!!
Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle? Do you think people are open about it?
Yes, I wonder all the time. I don’t know how it’s possible to feel like you are doing both successfully. I do not think people are honest about it at all. Stay at home moms have it rough because they are constantly surrounded by children without much adult interaction and working moms must feel like they are missing important milestones and rushing to get it all done. I commend women on both ends of the spectrum; being a mom is not an easy job!
What are some of your top must have products for the parenting part of your life? What are some non-mom must haves?
Video baby monitor. I used it with both kids and I love being able to see and hear her. I always feel reassured that she is safe. Non mom must haves: My Keurig, laptop, iphone and ipad (hmmm lots of technology there!)
No one ever told me that I would literally do anything for my kids. They are my entire world. I never realized that I would worry so much about them!
If you had an extra hour in the day you would spend it…?
With my husband! We almost never have time alone together!
Do you find it hard or difficult at all to stay connected to friends/people in your life now that you have kids? Do you find there is any gap or gulf in between you and the friends/people in your life that don’t have kids? Any tips on how to stay connected to those people?
Yes and no. I have a lot of friends who have kids, but it is hard to coordinate schedules to get together. Those who do not have kids have NO idea how different your life is when you have children, so I do feel that they just don’t get it. I try to find a sitter occasionally so I can get out, but it isn’t easy to get out without the kids.
Is there anything you find yourself doing as a parent that you swore you would never do before you had kids?
Yes. I have repeatedly licked my finger and wiped things off my kids faces! I promised myself I would NEVER do that! They both absolutely hate it, but the way I see it is that it’s better than whatever is on their face! LOL
Thanks so much to Farrah for sharing her Mom Life with the Mamatoga readers. If YOU would like to participate in this series, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. xoxo