Welcome to my newest series in the ongoing My Mom Life Series, all about our different choices as far as family size. I am starting the series with some "One and Done" moms, those who choose to have their family size include one kiddo. This series is meant to open up a discussion, shed some light, and share some understanding about how other moms do their thing. The series will continue after the One and Done moms to include those with 2, 3, 4, and you guessed it, 5 kids (I might take a crack at that one) and even bigger families too! So if you want to be part of it shoot me an email at Jenny @ Mamatoga.com and we'll chat. Now let's see what Erin W. has to share with us about being a "One and Done" mom.
Erin: My husband and I are both from the area, but left for college and work after graduation (NH and PA). We returned to Upstate NY about 10 years ago and were married here. I have always worked in higher education and my husband (Mike) in aviation. We are avid lake people (boating & skiing), renovation junkies, landlords and house flippers who love to be outside. We now make our home in Johnstown, just west of Saratoga. I'm an Independent College Consultant for The College Advisor of NY (in Albany) and a Director with Thirty-One Gifts. Mike is a First Officer with American Airlines, based out of Philadelphia, PA. Emma was born in 2012 and turned our world upside down! We lost our 14 year old dog this year, followed by the adoption of two puppies (brothers) at the beginning of the summer. They're crazy!
Mamatoga: What are some of the perks of having an only child?
Erin: This is a hard question to answer, because I don't know life any other way. One thing that could be considered a "perk" is the fact that I never feel spread too thin where Emma is concerned. Even with Mike gone so much with work, I have plenty of energy to focus on her needs. With this 1:1 ratio most days, we do everything together; appointments, hobbies, day trips, shopping, dog class, movies, etc.
M: What are some of the challenges of having an only child?
Erin: I worry sometimes that I am spoiling her! Activities, toys, events and lessons all circle around Emma's interests. It concerns me to think that she may grow up thinking that she always gets to do what she wants to do!
M: What do you think are some of the misconceptions people have about only child families?
Erin: A few that really bother me ... that we are somehow not a "real" family or I'm not a "real" mom because we "only" have one child. As if to insinuate that we have it easier than others. It also bothers me that people sometimes assume that something is wrong health-wise, like that we can't have other children or have tried/failed, which is not the case.
M: What would you like to tell people about only child families?
Erin: We are a "real" family! :-) Our trio may operate on a smaller scale, but our house is still full of love and chaos, just like many other homes. We still have schedules to juggle, expenses and commitments to balance.
M: What is some advice you would give to someone who is considering being a “one and done” family?
Erin: You have to do what works for you! What makes sense for your family, your spouse, your heart and soul. One child may complete your family and that's only for YOU to decide.