My Mom Life: Darcey Pickett What do you find tricky about your current set-up/schedule? What would you change if you could? If you asked me this question a year ago, I would have told you that being a wife of a deployed Sailor was very tricky. This year I am blessed to have my spouse home to help with our daughter and making sure all bases are covered. The only thing I would currently change is my commute, by the time I get home from work I only get about 2 hours with my daughter, that is, if she isn’t playing with her friends or busy with her things.
What do you like best about your current set-up/schedule? I love that my spouse is home to help; it really makes a big difference having him there to start dinner or get Emma ready for the next day.
What is your typical schedule like during the week? I am up by 5:15 trying to get a list of things done before work. I drop Emma off to her day care and I am on the Northway by 6:55, I work all day and get home around 6:00pm to finish what was missed in the morning. As for the weekends, they come and go so fast it is a blur.
Do you have time for yourself? What do you do during that time? I am lucky, I do get some time to myself, on Mondays and Wednesdays I leave work and head straight for the gym and maybe sneak a little shopping in there too.
What advice would you give to other moms about how to balance work and life? This is a hard question because I don’t even think I balance it well, but it really comes down to a good, well thought out plan. I make a plan and then lists for everything, I am known for them!
Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle? Do you think people are open about it? I do wonder, because I am a military wife that works full time and I only have one child, I can’t imagine having to juggle even more than I already do. I think women are more open about it now then when my Mom was raising my siblings and me.
What are some of your top must have products for the parenting part of your life? What are some non-mom must haves? A Nintendo DS, that saved my life when my husband was away. It allowed me to do almost everything I would do if he was home and kept her distracted when I was doing the Weekend Dash as I call it. My daily planner was like my third arm, but I invested in an iPhone so it is less bulk to carry. As for my non-Mom must haves, my shoes, my purse and a fabulous dress, every woman wants to feel pretty!
What is one thing you’ve realized/learned about motherhood that no one ever told you before you had kids? I never realized how much of an impact I make on her life, I knew being a parent was special, but when I see her do something that I do, even as small as wearing a necklace because I do or when I hear my daughter tell me that I am the best Mom ever, I know in my heart that I am doing something right.
If you had an extra hour in the day you would spend it…? Honestly I would love an extra hour to do silly things with my daughter, Emma.
Do you find it hard or difficult at all to stay connected to friends/people in your life now that you have kids? Do you find there is any gap or gulf in between you and the friends/people in your life that don’t have kids? Any tips on how to stay connected to those people? It is hard to make the time to see friends but I developed the types of friendships that I can go weeks without seeing them or talking to them and we always pick up where we left off with no hard feelings. My friends that don’t have children understand that Emma and I are a package deal and sometimes I might have to bring her with me because of our military life style. They love Emma as if she were their own, so it all works out for the best. I think it is very important to develop the kinds of relationships that don’t require such a high demand on your life and allow for flexibility. My friends are a big part of my life, even if we can’t connect every day, I will send them a text, card or a funny post of Facebook.
Is there anything you find yourself doing as a parent that you swore you would never do before you had kids? I have to admit that my level of patience is very low and I swore to myself that I would be more patient with Emma; well…we know how that goes! It is all a learning process and I am always learning.
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