Hello, my name is Adelaida. I recently moved to Saratoga county from Dutchess county. I'm a wife to my best friend. We will be celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary this September. I'm a SAHM of two energetic boys ages 4 & 3. I have my hands full but am loving every minute. Before deciding to stay at home and raise my boys, I was a police officer for 6 years. Shortly before the birth of my 2nd son, I decided to leave and dedicate all my time to them. Fortunately I was able to make it happen. I have my own photography business, which allows me to make some extra income, but most importantly, to set my own schedule.
Do you have time for yourself? What do you do during that time?
I don't make a lot of time for myself. That's something I'm trying to change. It's not that I can't. My husband is very understanding and encourages me to find some time alone. I often feel guilty if I leave to do something on my own. But when I do, how refreshing! It doesn't take long before I feel a difference in my attitude. I like to take a gym class, get a pedicure, grab Starbucks at my local Barnes & noble, take a long walk at Saratoga state park, or grab my camera find some buildings and scenery to photograph.
What do you like best about your current set-up/schedule?
I love our summer schedule because there isn't much of a schedule. Schools out, so we can plan our day how ever we would like. I've always been a planner type person, and love keeping an organized schedule, but being able to freely go with our day, is a blessing. I take a few minutes at night when the boys are asleep and pencil in activities that we can do each day. "Pencil in" meaning easily erased, because we may or may not get to it, but no worries. I like to include a few minutes of learning activities daily. There's always an opportunity to learn & play at the same time. One of the best things I love about our schedule now, is outside play. We are outside most of the day, rain or shine.
What is your typical schedule like during the week?
We wake up around 7am (6:45 ish.. Then out the bed by 7) after our morning routine ( brush teeth, make beds, get dressed) while I make breakfast,the boys practice writing names, letters & numbers . It's an easy routine I've come up with. It keeps them busy until breakfast is done. After breakfast they put away their dishes and head into their playroom. I like to take this time to clean up breakfast and start 1 load of laundry ( 1 load a day from start to finish makes laundry less painful) depending on the day we will head out the house by 9:30 ish to:
•Library (story time & play) •Park (splash park or playground) •Bike riding at Saratoga Spa State Park •Museum •Great Escape
We don't have a set summer schedule, it depends on the weather and local activities that are going on for the week. I like to find free or nearly free things to do with them. As a SAHM I think it's important to save as much as you can, when you can. I like to have at least 2 days a week we stay home. This gives me time to enjoy our home, yard, our pool, get housework done. The kids love playing outside with the neighbors and in their playroom. I like crafting with them, so it gives us time to do that. The boys still take naps, not everyday, but most days. I usually get an hour of quiet time if they nap. I meal plan weekly, this helps on days when you can't think of something to cook. I rotate their favorite meals and like to look up new recipes to try. There are also days where we order Pizza and that's ok too.
Bedtime routine starts at around 7:30 ( bath, brush teeth, books & prayers) boys are asleep by 8:30pm. Some days we make exceptions, family movie nights or boating days they go to bed a bit later. What are some of your top must have products for the parenting part of your life?
When they were younger, it was the Nose Frida. Such a life saver when they were congested. I would recommend it to everyone.
I also loved the Fisher Price Rock & Play. Both my boys had acid reflux, the position of the rocker helped them sleep and feel relief.
What is one thing you’ve realized/learned about motherhood that no one ever told you before you had kids?
How exhausting it is! By the time I get into bed at night, I feel like I ran a marathon. But it's a great kind of exhaustion. Being a parent is the most important thing I will ever do.
Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle?
Of course, I love tips and ideas from other moms. I love reading blogs online. As women and moms we need to work together, encourage and help each other.
If you had an extra hour in the day you would spend it…?
The choices are endless, but maybe sit quietly somewhere with a hot cup of coffee.
Do you find it hard or difficult at all to stay connected to friends/people in your life now that you have kids? Do you find there is any gap or gulf in between you and the friends/people in your life that don’t have kids? Any tips on how to stay connected to those people?
It's not difficult to stay connected. I think since I've moved, it has made it a bit harder. But I've learned that the people who want to stay connected, do. When someone is important, you make the time. Most of my friends have children, but not the same age of my boys. I've made new friends through play groups and school. Their children are close to my boys age. Facebook also keeps me connected with people I can't see often. It's nice sharing our pictures. It allows you to stay somewhat connected when you are far away.
Is there anything you find yourself doing as a parent that you swore you would never do before you had kids?
Something I swore I'd never do as a parent, that I find myself doing now, is counting. The dreadful, "don't make me count to 3", followed by the one... Two.. And hoping they stop whatever it was to make you sound so ridiculous. Every time I do this, I have to laugh inside. But hey, whatever works, right?
What advice would you give to other moms about how to balance work and life?
I would tell them to make time for themselves and their partner. Before children, it was you and him. I try to always remember that and make time for us. Since I recently just moved here, and we don't have family around, it's hard to do. But we found a great Parents night out program that we participate with once a month. It gives us a 4 hour date night. It's so nice to have a kid free dinner and some alone time. We also love our RedBox nights once the kids are asleep. Lastly, don't sweat the small stuff. Tomorrow is another day.
Thank you to Adelaida for taking part in this series, to read more in the My Mom Life Series click here. To read my Mom Life, visit the Summer Issue of Mamatoga Magazine right here. If you would like to take part in the series, email me at Jenny@Mamatoga.com. xoxo