My Mom Life: Samantha M.

fallWhat do you find tricky about your current set-up/schedule? What would you change if you could? My work schedule is the tricky part. My work hours start at 9, 8:30 or 7:30 in the morning, meaning three different wake up times, three different leave times. Every morning I’m panicking if the right alarm went off and how long do I have before we have to be out the door! I would love my schedule to be filled with all early days, so we could have quality time together every night.

What do you like best about your current set-up/schedule?

I’m in love with the weekends! I’m making a habit of shopping late on Friday after picking up my little from daycare so we can stay in at least one or both days over the weekend. It may seems odd to some, but we run like crazy all week, and I appreciate day(s) of being at home just playing and enjoying my time with her.

If you had an extra hour in the day you would spend it?

Play with Matty, bust out the paints and get messy, bake cookies together, read a book.

Matty christmasWhat advice would you give to other moms about how to balance work and life?

It’s about letting go of the guilt! Instead of rushing to daycare to get my daughter just to rush home to start dinner and nighttime things, I drive to daycare, play with Matty before leaving and then play with her when we first get home. The more we grow together, the more clear it is that dinner will get cooked, the house will get picked up… sometime and we have plenty of clothes to skip laundry.

Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle?

Do you think people are open about it?  I constantly wonder how other women do it. Are the Moms who make it look easy doing it at a lower standard than me or are they not being upfront about their true parenting woes? During a recent conversation with a girlfriend, she said she loved seeing all of the beautiful pictures I’ve posted on social media lately, but she wanted to know what my almost two year old was doing that was driving me crazy. Needless to say, that conversation went on a bit longer!

What are some of your top must have products for the parenting part of your life?

My Boba carrier, a baby doll and a canteen! We’re simple and light in our travels.

IMG_20140710_161732984What is one thing you’ve realized/learned about motherhood that no one ever told you before you had kids?

Emotions! Those ups and downs that I experienced during pregnancy carry far into motherhood, perhaps they’ll never leave me. Almost two years later, I can simply look at my little lady and instantly I’m a joyful, tearful, hot mess!

matty 2Do you find it hard or difficult at all to stay connected to friends/people in your life now that you have kids? Do you find there is any gap or gulf in between you and the friends/people in your life that don’t have kids? Any tips on how to stay connected to those people?

Absolutely! Rewind five years, my first job I was 21 and all of my coworkers were in their mid-twenties with young children. I didn’t really fit into their family plans outside of work but went anyways, or I was left feeling guilty that I proposed a “kid-free” event. Now, at twenty-six, at a new job and the proud Momma of my little lady, I’m the twenty-something Mom. Actually the only one my age with a young child.  I can only laugh and think “how did this happen?!”  It’s hard to have friends that are not parents, I’m either talking too much about Mom things or running into scheduling conflicts. I can appreciate the positive though; I have some really great, experienced Mommas for support and a good laugh!

Is there anything you find yourself doing as a parent that you swore you would never do before you had kids? Sort of. Once I found out I was pregnant I researched, a lot. I developed strong feelings about breastfeeding, co-sleeping and baby wearing. Proudly, I have not wavered from them. However, I never saw myself letting go of scheduling or routines, but we just don’t have them. Not for bedtime, not for dinner, and so on. I’m really on-demand with my daughter, I’m trying to build her up and help her to become a confident, capable woman.

Many thanks to Samantha for taking part in the My Mom Life series, to read more in the series click right here. If you'd like to take part please email me at Jenny (at) Mamatoga dot com. xoxo