I'm Kimberley, I live in Clifton Park with my husband, Paul, my 16 year old daughter Brianna and 7 month old son Mason. I'm a Childcare Provider and a Makeup Artist. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. We tried for a couple of years to get pregnant and after a miscarriage and two long years of trying, finally fell pregnant with our son, Mason. I was a young mom when I had my daughter and it's very different being a mom in your thirties, then it is when you're nineteen. I have one child who is getting her first job and getting her drivers permit and the other one is learning to crawl and babble.
What is your typical schedule like during the week?
During the work week, my day usually starts around 6:30am. I get my daughter off to school at 6:45am, then I pump before my son wakes, which is any where between 7am and 8am. He's a sleeper, which is great! My husband usually helps me feed and change our son when he wakes. I'm a Childcare provider in my own home, so I usually am getting last minute things ready before the first child shows.
What do you like best about your current set-up/schedule?
Our schedule seems to work for everyone in our household. Nothing really changes much during the week. We're able to keep to a pretty set schedule.
Do you have time for yourself? What do you do during that time?
Working at home, you can feel very isolated, especially during the winter months when you don't get out often, because of the weather, I try to at least get out for an hour yoga class a week or to get my hair done or do some shopping. It's hard for me though, because I feel guilty leaving and when I do have a little time for myself, I'm constantly checking in and I don't really relax.
Do you find it hard or difficult at all to stay connected to friends/people in your life now that you have kids? Do you find there is any gap or gulf in between you and the friends/people in your life that don’t have kids? Any tips on how to stay connected to those people?
Yes! This is something I talk about a lot with my husband. Since having our son, we don't see friends as often as we'd like. It's hard when everyone has different schedules and life is so busy, but it's important for our relationship to have that time, whether it be with friends or a date night, even if it isn't that often.
What are some of your top must have products for the parenting part of your life? What are some non-mom must haves?
My Medela breast pump, Fisher Price Snugabunny rock n play sleeper, my son wouldn't sleep flat for the first few weeks, so we had to go on a search for something he would sleep upright in, and this thing was amazing! Also, I absolutely love Mama Mio skin care products. This is a skin care line that is safe during pregnancy and while your breastfeeding. I love their boob tube cream. Some of my new mom must haves are Evolution fresh pressed juice, these are great for on the go. Laura Mercier illuminating tinted moisturizer, Burt's Bees tinted lip balm and Blinc mascara.
Make sure to make time for yourself! When you plan your week, make it a point to schedule time with your friends, a date night with your spouse, or activities that help you recharge. you'll have something to look forward to and an extra incentive to manage your time well.
Do you ever wonder how other women manage the juggle? Do you think people are open about it?
Of course! I'm able to work from home, which allows me more time with my son and I'm home when my daughter gets home from school. I also get to be there to see all those "firsts" with my son, which is incredibly satisfying.
Breastfeeding is hard! At least for me, because I'm not one of those woman who has an abundant milk supply. I have to pump constantly! I have to say I am very proud of myself for not giving up and I'm still able to keep up with my son's needs at almost 7 months old.
Is there anything you find yourself doing as a parent that you swore you would never do before you had kids?
Go to bed with a messy house! The delusion that I thought that I’d always have energy to continue to ‘never go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink’ or a ‘messy house’ is hilarious. I think this rule got put right behind ‘shave legs on a regular basis'!
A big thanks to Kimberley for taking part in the My Mom Life Series. To read more from the series, click right here.