Have you ever had that feeling when you are just SO READY for a day/night out without the kids, it's just so super necessary, only to have that night finally arrive and you're just...kinda not feeling it anymore? All those days waiting for the freedom of a child free few hours and suddenly you just can't muster up the energy to actually get ready and leave the house?
I've been there. Like a LOT. Sort of like every single time I make plans lately.
You see, in theory, going out with friends sounds awesome, right? You get to see your actual adult friends, talk about adult things (okay maybe you talk about your kids part of that time, that's alright) and there isn't a small child to interrupt you every fifteen seconds asking for juice.
But then you realize, this actually is gonna take some effort, like a) putting on an actual outfit/showering, b) staying up past 9pm, which means c) not hitting the couch right after the kids go to bed for some Netflix and falling asleep 15 minutes into the show. And sometimes, when you're fully in the mix of raising tiny humans, adding on getting ready and leaving the house after dinner/bath/bedtime just does not sound like fun, and you shouldn't have to force yourself to have fun, right?
Plus, you have a perfect built in excuse for bailing, too. Raise your hand if you have ever used the "sick kid/cranky baby" excuse when bailing on friends (YOU SHOULD ALL BE RAISING YOUR HANDS). It's a solid excuse, a harmless little white lie, because no one is gonna challenge you staying in to help with a sick kid (and yes, often enough your child IS actually sick or cranky too). And as moms, we all know when someone is pulling the sick kid excuse, and we let it slide, because we also know that feeling when you just are too wiped out to go out and we want to use that excuse ourselves once in a while without getting any grief.
This is the crunch time though, when you have to push yourself. You have to just pull it together, throw on the one outfit in your closet that makes you feel cute, and go out with your friends. You need that time to relax, to talk to other adults that aren't your significant other. And the thing is, they need you, too. Maybe they have something they need to talk about, or maybe they just really need the break from being a mom. It's part of being a mama tribe to be there for each other, and if it isn't your time to vent to someone, maybe someone else needs you to be there to listen, or maybe you just all need to laugh and relax and remember you can use potty words without spelling them out.
So the next time you feel like bailing, pull yourself up outta that funk and just go out. Be out, relax, listen to your girlfriend's rant about whatever, and be part of your tribe. Your kids might not let you sleep in the next morning to make up for it, but it'll still be worth it.