Ever since me and Matt started dating back in 2013 we had talked and joked about having a kid one day... well little would we know about a half year later we would be finding out I was pregnant. Finding out that was scary but a great feeling because I already knew I was with the person I wanted to raise a family with and marry, so fast forword to January 15, 2015 the day the most amazing thing that would ever happen, happened.
We had always talked about having more and if we really wanted to have more and after talking to people who were pregnant with their second child and hearing a lot of them say that they are excited but don't really care much about the pregnancy because they already went through it with their first, really got me thinking that I don't wanna do that again it wouldn't be fair to another child to feel that way, and financially in the world we live in today it just wasn't a good idea.
Honestly, I don't think I could ever love another child or human the way I do my daughter, we have been through way to much that I forever want her to have my attention. When she was 9 months my daughter had a seizure while she was with my mother in law and my husband and I were both working. The EMTs and everyone thought we would lose her and thankfully she is still here.
After that I become a stay at home mom up until a few weeks ago actually....and it's a challenge having one kid because, well, they constantly want and need you attention. But luckily I have 3 cats and a dog and an ipad that keep her busy when I need a little me time or the laundry needs folding. That would honestly be the only challenge thus far we have faced with having an only child.
The perks are she's my best friend. She is so smart and can learn so quickly because I can give her that one on one time. She knows how to use her imagination so well and in my eyes seems happier than some kids with siblings, and weirdly enough she isn't around kids too much but when she is she loves to share.
A lot of people always tell us we are going to regret not giving her a brother or sister, but that's when another animal can come into play. Everyone always says she's gonna be lonely but with the way her personality is thus far I don't see that happening. And of course they say shes gonna wish she had siblings and she may but think of it this way, but I feel most kids with siblings wish to be the only child and kids who are only children wish the other way around.
People who choose to be only children families do it for a legit reason and they do it because they know that is the best option for their family. I get to spoil one child for the rest of her life and not have to worry about kids fighting or buying multiple toys or the feeling of knowing you are so tight on money and can't afford something. And when I am 45 I'm still young enough to go back to doing what I want and she can be a part of it.
My advice to give someone who is thinking about being a one and done family... is do what you know is right, don't listen to anyone else and make sure it's what you really want, but know that I have yet to regret it and couldn't be happier in the choice we made as a family.
Thank you to Leah for taking part in this series, to read the first piece in the series, click here.